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Unconscious Bonding Rachl, Judith
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Rachl, J. (2018). Unconscious Bonding: Forming Bonds Quickly in Today's Fast-Paced Society. University of Groningen.
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Acknowledgements
In everything give praise:
For this is the purpose of God in Christ Jesus for you. 1.Thessalonichan 5,18
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I never thought I would pursue an academic career and looking back on the last 10 years of my academic life, I am amazed and so thankful how God has guided me, and for the opportunities He has provided me with. There were a few attempts from my side to leave academia, but He never allowed that to happen – because He just knows me so much better than I do. Research means a lot to me and it is the place I am meant to be, where I am happy.
My mum once told me that she was always afraid that I, as a small kid, would ask very detailed questions about things she could not answer – I guess that is where my deep interest for research and understanding the world started. Yet, it took some 20 years until Mark came into my life and revealed this passion for research. Thank you Mark that you planted the seed and that you watered me with fruitful meetings and confidence in my ideas. I am looking forward to many more years of learning more from your scientific understanding.
Pontus, thank you for believing in me before we even met each other. It was a challenge for both of us to move to the Netherlands not knowing what we will expect – and the challenges kept on. Thank you for always having an open ear to all my academic and private nightmares responding with “good that you feel that way so you will change”, yet being very supportive and understanding – we definitely managed this fight together and you are the best supervisor I could have wished for!
Another thank goes to Nico who supported my research, made funding for my position possible and helped in finalizing this thesis. Thank you for the time and feedback you invested in me.
I also would like to thank my colleagues from the department of Social and Organizational Psychology in Groningen. You supported my Ph.D. process through excellent research discussions in our weekly lab meetings while providing the opportunity to think outside the box. Thank you Barbara and Anita for always helping me with smaller and bigger organizational problems – I loved to come shopping to you ;) Thank you Jaap and Pieter for giving IT support to all my crazy ideas. A big thank goes to all my research assistants: Christopher, Eike B., Eike E., Fenja, Jan, Janis, Kathrin, Laura, Lea, Leonie, Marion, Nadja, Nathalie, Ruth, Romy, Stella, Tabea, Vanessa, Yannick, – without
you all the data collection would not have been possible and I am very happy and proud that some of you are now pursuing a Ph.D. as well.
I also would like to thank my collaborators. Gavan, although our projects did not end up in this thesis, you always believed in me and my skills. I am thankful for all the productive meetings we had and that you seemed to be amazed by all my study ideas and findings. It is great working with you! Tanya, you know I wanted you to be on some of my papers, but out of generosity you always declined being a co-author. A special thank you to your suggestions on some of the study designs in this thesis.
A very special thank you goes to Anna Mei who motivated me the last weeks before handing in the thesis: thank you for creating a great atmosphere so that I was able to push myself through it.
Paul, danke dir für deine Freundschaft. Auch wenn wir uns eher unregelmäßig sehen und hören, bist du doch immer dabei, wenn ich mal wieder eine verrückte Idee oder Aufgabe für dich habe. Danke auch, dass du den weiten Weg für einen Besuch in Groningen auf dich genommen hast. Vielen Dank für deine kreativen Ideen, für das Cover dieser Doktorarbeit – ich bin immer wieder erstaunt über dein Talent schnell etwas aufs Papier zu bringen.
Thank you for many interesting discussions and questions, Helga & Bello! I learned a lot from you and have a better understanding of what Bello meant when he suggested that the perfect match would be his wisdom and my youth. Meghan and Andrew, thank you so much for your friendship. I am so thankful that I always have a place to fall back on when travelling in the States or meeting my collaborators. You mean a lot to me and Gri. Meghan, thank you so much for proofreading this dissertation!
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Ein Dank gilt auch meinem Vater, der durch seine finanzielle Unterstützung ermöglichte, dass ich mir keine Gedanken um finanzielle Engpässe machen musste und mich somit voll und ganz auf meine Studium und meinen Doktor konzentrieren konnte.
Heute ist der Tag gekommen, Johannes, an dem du mich nun offiziell Dr. Schätzchen nennen darfst ;-) Ich bin sehr dankbar dich als Bruder zu haben. Danke für all deine Unterstützung in den letzten Jahren, sei es beim Renovieren der Wohnung in Groningen oder bei diversen Umzügen und Flughafen/Zug-Abholdiensten.
Simon, ich danke dir, dass du mich sportlich motivierst und herausforderst und mir vermittelt hast, dass eine Work-Life-Balance wichtig ist. Danke auch, dass du mir bei sportlichen Verletzungen als Spezialist zur Seite stehst und ich schon die ein oder andere Massage genießen durfte. Ich bin sehr dankbar dich als Bruder zu haben.
Danke Mum! Du hast einen großen Anteil daran, dass ich heute die Person bin, die ich bin. Danke, dass du mich immer gefördert und gefordert und mich in allen meinen Vorhaben unterstützt hast. Du hast mir neben meiner Perfektion und Leistungsorientierung aber auch aufgezeigt, dass es da noch etwas anderes gibt: meine Beziehung zu Jesus Christus. Danke, dass ich in jungen Jahren schon so viel über Ihn erfahren durfte und ich so behütet aufwachsen konnte.
Gri – was soll ich sagen? Ich danke dir, dass du immer an mich geglaubt hast und du die Lücken gefüllt hast, wenn meine Motivation, mein Mut und meine Perfektion nachgelassen haben. Die letzten zwei Jahre waren eine große Herausforderung für uns als Paar, aber auch für dich als Ehemann. Danke, dass ich mich bei dir immer sicher und geborgen fühlen darf und du meine Bedürfnisse vor deine stellst!
