Long-lived sociality : a cultural analysis of middle-class older persons' social lives in Kerala, India
Bomhoff, M.C.
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Bomhoff, M. C. (2011, November 24). Long-lived sociality : a cultural analysis of middle- class older persons' social lives in Kerala, India. Retrieved from
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TABLE OF CONTENTS
INTRODUCTION 1
Studying Sociality Writing Older Persons Time & Me
Structural Arrangements Chapters
SENIOR CITIZENS ASSOCIATED 17
Introduction
A Focus on Older Persons
“It’s My Knee that Makes Me Old”
Aging Selves
Senior Citizens’ Association The Fortunate Few are with Many Intensive Fieldwork
Mr. and Mrs. Nair Other Older Persons Coming and Going Constructing the Future Talk of Old
A Silent Prayer Driving Home Conclusion
PLACING AND APPROPRIATING 47
Introduction
The Textbook Row, or an Introduction gone Wrong How Names Place
Appropriating Contacts
A Fine Web of Hierarchy and Authority My First Introductions
Conclusion
GENERATIONS OF CHANGE 63
Introduction
Gendered Relations
A ‘Love Marriage’ with an Arranged Bride Adaptations and Flexibility
Dowry Costs
A Joint History in a Discourse of Disintegration Some Households are More Joint than Others Living ‘Alone’
Old Age Homes: A Peek Inside
Following the Lifestyle of a Foreign Country Conclusion
DISCIPLINE MATTERS IN HOW OLD YOU GROW 95 Introduction
Structuring Time Food for Thought
Persons as a Body, a Self and a Social Being
Religious Discipline and Discipline through Religion
“God’s Grace you Need and Exercise as Well”
Remain Calm and Keep Yourself Together LDF Calls for a Dawn-to-Dusk Hartal Disciplined Citizens
Kitty Party Conclusion
“YOU SHOULD CALL,YOU HAVE TO CALL”
AND OTHER EXPECTATIONS AND DUTIES 127 Introduction
“You Should Call, You Have to Call”
“What is There to Like?”
Positions and Expectations Expectations in Older Age
Gender and a Ritualisation of Household Work
“My Children are Telling Me...”
Talk Nicely
Sociality and the Self Conclusion
MOBILITY,DISTANCES AND A NATIVE PLACE 155 Introduction
Cultures of Mobility Temporality and Mobility
One of a Great Many Histories of Mobility
“My Sister Was Always Calling Me”
Different Lives but Similar Routes Working the Distance
Going Native
Restricted Places for Older Persons
Social Mobility and Cosmopolitanism in Thiruvananthapuram Conclusion
MARY AUNTIE AND JOSEPH UNCLE 177 Introduction
First Visit in 2003 Coming Back in 2005 Second Visit in 2005 Coming Back in 2008 Another Visit in 2008 Last Visit in 2008
Last Telephone Call in 2008
DEPENDENCY,CARE AND THE MANY LINKS
BETWEEN METHODOLOGY AND THEORY 191 Introduction
Dependency Anxiety For a Loss of Authority Care Actions and Problematic Assumptions
Direct and Indirect, Long Term and Emergency Care
“Nobody is Coming Anymore”
Money and Care Ethical Dilemma’s Silences
Conclusion
CONCLUSION 215
REFERENCES 221
SAMENVATTING 235
ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS 241
CURRICULUM VITAE 243
